They say that people who workout together stay together, but I can say for sure that it’s not solely about working out. It’s not solely about style either. People in a couple rarely, actually, share the same style. Or energy.
But when they naturally do, when they share the same energy, they almost always share the same style, too. They might not always share the exact same style, but it’s their energy that makes one say They have this thing… People in a couple rarely share the same style when they don’t share the same energy. It’s a fine line.
Their body language speaks volumes even when they don’t hold hands. The volume goes up when they do. Isn’t holding hands one of the best things ever? Especially when touching feels as natural as drinking water does. Water at its perfect temperature, not too cold, not too warm. Crystal clear delicious water.
The best part of the couples who style together thing is that the people in the couple can not not be real. None of them lies. A couple that shares both style and energy, shares love. This doesn’t mean they always have to be careful with coordinating or something. On the contrary. Nothing has to anything. It’s only when they stay true to who they are that they create love, the love that makes them ride the same wave or become even more of who they truly are. The love everyone dreams about, yet only the bravest are brave enough to pursue.
There’s an elegance to it.
I saw it in my parents’ relationship throughout the years, so it’s possible.
But in order to stay true to who they are, they’d better know or be interested in knowing who they are and this is where the C’est la vie! comes in. The more each of them is true to who they are, the more the style they have together, as a couple, shines through. Almost regardless of what they wear. Clothes are not the most important, of course, but let’s not forget that clothes are not just clothes.
Their flow, regardless of what they wear, is the thing one can not put one’s finger on, but senses. And enjoys without even realising. It’s freedom. It’s about not being afraid. Of anything. Starting with clothes and finishing with rollercoasters or eating in the streets. Of Paris.
Obviously, style isn’t the most powerful thing about a couple (or is it?), but we can toast some champagne flutes to salute the moment when people in a couple have this thing… Energy is a must, though, I came – over the years and a couple of very long relationships – to realise. Just like humour is. Style is a bonus. When a couple shares the same energy and some kind of same style, they have, most probably, come to some kind of knowing of who they are and so on, oui, oui, ouuui! Kind.
Moreover, I think that when someone meets someone with the same energy and style, both of the someones get to experience, together and individually, even more of what being true to someone means. Potential grows and so does style. When the time’s right, sure, but, light bulb emoji, let’s not hide fear behind time. Let’s be easy about it. Easy…
However, there are, most definitely, people in a couple who are so different in every way possible and still love each other. So, in a world full of differences, the one thing that’s always going to be here forever is your true self, forever changing, and the other true self, forever changing with you, you can bounce with ideas off at night(!).
And no one guarantees anything here. That it’s all meant to be forever, but you don’t know until you try. Maybe it’s not, but what if it is? It only depends on what you want your life to be like. Like, like, like, like, like.
On your style!